Saying no effectively is a skill, and there are lots of ways to say no, and the good news is - learning how to say no is a skill that can be learned.
You probably already know that you should say no, but somehow you've still not managed to master the skill of how to say no in a way that's comfortable for you.
There are some great articles about saying no around the interwebz, but some seem to be a bit gung ho and don't take into account how difficult it can be for us people pleasers of the world to 'just say no'.
So here are 7 of the best blogs around that share ways to say no.
1. 10 Guilt Free Strategies For Saying No By Amanda Hinnant Via Real Simple
This post gives examples of situations and things you can say, which gives you both a chance to see how to say no in a practical way, and to put some key words and phrases into your toolbox.
2. How To Say No To Anyone, Even Good Friends By Alexandra Franzen Via The Muse
Saying no to friends can be really hard as we care about them and want to help whenever possible. But it's not always possible.
Alexandea says '... saying “no” gets easier with practice and repetition. And having the right script—a starting point, so you’re not starting at a blank screen—can make all the difference'.Again, practical advice/scripts for your toolbox showing how to handle it.
3. The Gentle Art Of Saying No By Leo Babauta via Lifehack.
A post with the focus on work and productivity.
I particularly like 'Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything'.
4. Non Bitchy Ways To Say No! By Stephanie Booth Via Cosmopolitan
In this post they compare men and women - 'When a guy is asked to take on an unwanted task, he generally doesn't hesitate to nip the request in the bud. No, he can't lend his buddy 20 bucks. Sorry, he has no time to dog-sit for his neighbor'.
Interesting... What do you think?
5. The Best Thing To Do In 2015? Learn How To Say No To People By Poorna Bell Via The Third Metric
I Love this post - not only great advice, but also a brilliant clip at the end to put a smile on your face!
6. 7 Simple Ways To Say No By Celestine Chua Via Zen Habits
Celestine says 'At the end of the day, it’s about how you say “no”, rather than the fact you’re saying no, that affects the outcome. After all, you have your own priorities and needs, just like everyone has his/her own needs. Saying no is about respecting and valuing your time and space. Say no is your prerogative'.
Very wise words.
Of course, I have written a couple of posts about ways to say no, like 'How Not To Say No', 'Say No To Yes', 'It's Your Choice (or is it) and 'When saying no isn't enough'. Modesty prevents me from including them <cough>
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