Now it's time to treat yourself that way.
You're kind, caring and always there when needed, available to lend a hand or give support, putting the needs of others before your own.
But you're tired, exhausted and overwhelmed, your life unbalanced and your own needs being ignored.
Looking after your own needs and caring for yourself isn't selfish, it's necessary - but you're not daft, you already know that don't you?
What you don't know is how to actually go about it without feeling selfish, guilty, or hurting other people's feelings.
I work with 'people pleasers' just like you, the givers of this world and show you how to find balance, take as well as give and form boundaries to protect yourself from those that would take too much.
There's so much you can do in whatever time you have to make powerful changes, and as you explore this site you'll see what I mean.
I really do!
I'm a recovering people pleaser, forced by circumstance (divorce, single parenthood and depression) to make a change.
Through both personal and professional experience I can guide you through your own process of valuing, caring for and ultimately loving yourself.
CLICK HERE for more about who I am, and my training and experience
So welcome aboard - you are very welcome.
My blog covers subjects I know people pleasers struggle with: self care, self knowledge and self acceptance, along with increasing resilience and improving communication.
You'll find guides, challenges and coaching to help you with self care, self knowledge and communication, or if you prefer to have help specifically tailored for you, we can work together on a 1:1 basis.
It's free, it's fun and it's highly effective, it's the perfect way to kick start your self care. Delivered to your inbox daily, this challenge has been put together assuming you're busy and on a budget.
Every day you'll receive a fun, interesting self care task which adds up to you both feeling great and realizing that you CAN find time for yourself, no matter how busy you are.
The therapeutic effects of journaling are widely documented, but where do you start? What if you're not in touch with your emotions, and aren't sure how you feel? What if you have concerns about confidentiality?
These questions and more are covered, along with what to write, how to write and questions for reflection.
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Being criticized is no picnic - it can put a dent in your confidence and make your self esteem tumble.
This guide explores how to hold your own when being criticised, how to recognise 'the good, the bad and the ugly' and 2 simple, highly effective methods of dealing with malicious criticism.
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You know it's your right to say no, but somehow when it comes to actually saying it the fear kicks in
In this course you'll look at how to take back control and say no - and not change your mind under pressure.
Ask Jane is perfect for those times your thoughts have become confused and you need direction and clarity.
A single 1:1 intensive coaching session, I'll help you work out what you want to do or say, and the best way of saying it.
If you've read a squillion self help books and just ended up confused, then maybe you'd benefit from some 1:1 help, tailored especially for you.
As a qualified and registered counsellor/psychotherapist since 2006, I draw on my training and experience to help you with resilience, self care, confidence and self esteem, communication, work/life balance and self acceptance.
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